Ep #31 Toxic Masculinity & Men's Healing Circles, with Shaun Kay

On this enlightening episode of the How To Die Happy podcast, hailing from the spiritual epicentre of Bali, co-hosts Martin O'Toole and Julia Malcolmson welcome Shaun Kay - a renowned shamanic guide, mentor, and ex-school teacher from Western Australia. Using his beautiful gift of storytelling, Shaun shares his purpose: to help men transition from boys to men, heal their internal wounds, step into their masculine power, and lead fulfilling lives.

Join us as we explore the transformational journey Shaun has embarked on, from his roots as a school teacher to becoming a highly attuned visionary and shamanic guide. We travel with him, from the serene landscapes of Western Australia to the rugged terrains of Peru. We hear about his life-altering experiences training with the Q'ero shamans of the high Andes, the Sacred Sons of North America, and how these encounters ignited his transformation and quest to awaken human potential.

Shaun unveils the cornerstone of his teachings - Connection, Challenge, and Clarity. He outlines the importance of refining one's connection with self, others, and spirit, fostering an environment where individuals feel seen, heard, and supported. He cultivates a sense of unity and brotherhood through shared experiences in men's circles, retreats, and ceremonies.

Shaun also discusses the concept of 'Challenge.' He emphasises the importance of meeting our edges and discovering the inherent strength of our souls. Through physical, mental, and emotional rituals, he offers insights into embracing challenges and integrating our primal power, enlightening listeners with his rich experiences from men's retreats and breathwork sessions.

Clarity, the third pillar of Shaun's work, is discussed in the context of awareness as the doorway to transformation. Shaun passionately advocates for purpose, passion, and practice as the trio that shapes a better man. As men, taking responsibility for their stories, owning their personal growth, and leading self-inquiry provide them with the tools necessary to be the heroes of their own lives.

Shaun's work, deeply embedded in breathwork, men's circles, retreats, and ceremonies, offers a unique and valuable perspective on toxic masculinity — a negative term that Martin, Jules, and Shaun are keen to criticise.

Shaun shares his journey from boyhood to manhood and discusses the vital work he does to help other men navigate this transformative path. The conversation is filled with beautiful, raw, and powerful moments that will make you rethink what it means to be a man in today's world.

Join us for a profoundly enriching episode where we explore topics like masculinity, mindfulness, love, connection, personal growth, and the power of workshops and retreats. Hear firsthand accounts of Shaun's experiences in Bali, Australia and Peru and his work's impact on the lives of thousands.

Tune in for a conversation that promises to enlighten, provoke thought, and inspire. This episode will resonate with all who seek to better understand themselves, redefine their relationship with masculinity, and are committed to personal growth and transformation.